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It's Time Indians and Pakistanis Begin to Repair Relationships

Urvashi Butalia
Nov 29, 2022
Speaking at the 20th lecture of the 'Dialogues Series', organised by the New Socialist Initiative, scholar Vinod Mubayi draws on history and personal experience to make a passionate plea for open communication in Southasia.

It is 1947. A six-year-old boy born in Lahore is about to enter the first grade when the city erupts in violence. Riots in July and August shut down schools. Children are forced to stay home. 

Living with his maternal grandparents, the boy, now over 80, still carries vivid memories of that time. 

One memory is of standing with his grandfather, hearing their Muslim neighbour implore them to leave their home. “Yahan ke naujawanon ka kuch bharosa nahin hai, kuch galat kar baithe toh hum pachtayenge (We can’t trust the youth here, if they do something wrong we’ll regret it),” the neighbour said. 

Raje maharaje badalte hain par praja toh nahin badalti (Kings and princes come and go but the people don’t change),” the boy’s grandfather, Rai Saheb Manohar Nath Razdan, said.

This phrase will be oft repeated in his family and elsewhere. Rai Saheb can’t understand what’s happening – the term ‘ethnic cleansing’ today has much meaning, but was unknown then.

A passionate plea

The boy, Vinod Mubayi, now an eminent retired scientist and scholar based in New York, recalls that the neighbour belonged to the Tiwana clan. People of his grandfather’s generation found their uprooting and displacement incomprehensible. For many, it led to bitterness.

“Partition divided us: can we be friends?” Mubayi asked, speaking at the 20th lecture of the ‘Dialogues Series’, organised by New Socialist Initiative, on this theme. Drawing upon history and personal stories, he made a passionate plea for friendship and open communication between India and Pakistan, particularly at the people-to-people level.

While not wishing to delve into the two-nation theory at this point, he said it is important to record that it was Hindu nationalist Veer Savarkar who initially brought up this theory, as early as 1923. This was well over a decade before Jinnah adopted the credo, in the 1930s and 40s, leading to the 1947 Partition. Today, Savarkar is idolised by those in power in India.

Mubayi drew on personal stories to illustrate what Partition meant and continues to mean to those who experienced it. Violence, killing, brutality happened on both sides, he said. Some who were displaced, like his grandfather, were partially compensated in material terms. However, the uprooting and displacement brought other losses which could not so easily be recouped – dispossession, the loss of homes, neighbourhoods, ways of life. 

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Paradoxical

This engendered a kind of bitterness which lives alongside nostalgia for lost homes. It is not surprising that people continue to carry both in their hearts and minds, Mubayi noted – dialectics teaches us that contradictory emotions can co-exist. 

Another example of such paradoxical emotions emerges in a story involving Mubayi’s late mother. She had been longing to revisit the home in Lahore where she grew up and gave birth to her three children before Partition took her away. 

The wedding of a friend’s daughter in Lahore in March 2006 provided an opportunity. Mubayi knew the bride’s mother, filmmaker Shireen Pasha, and father, architect Anwer Pasha, through a network of progressive-minded Southasians in Canada. He and his mother, then 87 years old, went to Pakistan for the wedding.

The visit to Mubayi’s childhood home in the walled city emerged spontaneously one day while they were at the hosts’ home in Lahore. Since not much had changed in the old city, they found the house easily. Shireen Pasha captured some moments of that visit with her video camera, including the warm welcome from the current residents who turned out to be descendants of tenants to whom Mubayi’s grandfather had once rented the house. 

The current occupants had retained many of the old papers, rent receipts, and tenancy papers. When the guests took their leave, the residents stopped them, saying, “It has taken you 60 years to come here, now at least stay 60 days with us.” 

But when Mubayi’s mother later visited her elder brother in Delhi and shared her excitement, he dismissively retorted, “Everything has been taken from us, why are you telling me these tales now?”

“Contradictory feelings thus live on, even among siblings in the same family, and it probably happens in society at large too,” commented Mubayi. It is unfortunate that the two states, created in the aftermath of Partition, have remained hostile to each other, he added. It is even more tragic that the hostility seems to have become stronger in recent years, with no signs of receding. 

Without getting into theorising on the role of the state and civil society, he noted that the interests of the state and civil society groups can often diverge, particularly depending on which group is in power. One example is when majoritarian fascism expresses state power in a way that does not meet the interests of all citizens.

Given this, Mubayi does not hold out much hope that the hostility between the two countries will end anytime soon. They have already fought four wars since their creation. The entrance of nuclear weapons into both countries in 1998 added a terrifying dimension to this hostility. 

“But while the past is commonly understood to be a prologue to the future, it also behoves us to imagine a future without the baggage of the past and to focus on what is possible,” Mubayi said.

Hope

And what are the possibilities for the future? Experience over the past 75 years has shown that despite the fraught and tense relationship, the common people of Southasia and in the diaspora easily establish friendships and bonds with each other whenever they get an opportunity, Mubayi noted. The longstanding linguistic and cultural bonds between India and Pakistan still bind peoples together. As geologist Arun Ahulwalia says, stones have no borders. So it can be with people.

“This point cannot be emphasised enough,” said Mubayi. “If we are to truly work towards establishing peace in the region, we need to work with what we have and build relationships at all levels.”

An organisation that has done precisely this, generating some hope through its dedicated work for peace in the region, is the Southasia Peace Action Network (Sapan), launched in March 2021. Mubayi is a member of Sapan, as is this writer.

Mubayi appreciates Sapan’s work, calling for soft borders and visas on arrival, as well as its groundbreaking monthly discussions on a range of subjects and themes – sport, road safety, the environment, youth, healthcare, Covid-19, the rights of the incarcerated, music and mystics, labour rights, art and activism, and more. Sapan has established itself, Mubayi said, as a group that holds promise and believes in a future of peace. 

Also read: For Growth, Pakistan Needs Peace Talks With India. But What Will India Get In Return?

“It is important to set up more such groups of citizens to discuss common issues. Even if we don’t have the resources of the state, at least we will be talking and not trying to score political points,” he added.

Sapan founder-curator Beena Sarwar, who joined the discussion briefly between other engagements, spoke of the importance of “moving beyond the binary of India and Pakistan” and looking at the region as a whole. She also stressed the importance of recognising the differences between and within our own countries – not everything is “the same” as some people say. 

“So what role can citizens play?” Asked an audience member. “Is there even a point in speaking of people-to-people contact, given that our governments continue to make enemies of each other, and that any change we are able to make is so micro that it hardly touches the macro picture?” 

We need to begin with ourselves and work towards the change we want to see, Mubayi responded, as did Sarwar. 

“Our efforts may be small, but they are not insignificant,” said Mubayi. The ongoing Bharat Jodo Yatra being led by Rahul Gandhi, a prominent leader of the opposition in India, may not make a dent at a political level but at least it provides people with the feeling that some of the toxic legacies that we are dealing with can be countered, at least at some level.

This, in the end, is the message of hope that Mubayi wishes to deliver: We have had a long history of division, and it is time we begin to heal and repair relationships. 

Working together to address our common issues is a crucial step towards that goal.

Note on ‘Southasia’ as one word: Following the lead of Himal Southasian, Sapan uses ‘Southasia’ as one word, “seeking to restore some of the historical unity of our common living space, without wishing any violence on the existing nation states”. Writing Sapan like this rather than all caps makes it a word that means ‘dream’.

Urvashi Butalia is a feminist publisher and writer based in Delhi. Among her publications is the award-winning oral history of Partition: The Other Side of Silence: Voices from the Partition of India, Penguin, India, 1998; Duke University Press, 2000.

This article was originally published on Sapan News Network.

 

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